I think you and Delphinus are treating emotion and logic as if they're mutually exclusive. You can practice both and still make healthy decisions. Actually, you both continually assume that respecting your own emotions automatically means making rash decisions based on impulse. That's not what I mean at all. In fact, I don't condone making decisions that would negatively impact anyone without thorough evaluation. What I mean is simply this:
Don't be ashamed of your emotions and understand that it is your right to be upset or angry, just as much as it is your right to be happy or content. This does not entail making any decisions with transitive effects on other people. In fact, it does not entail making decisions at all. It simply means you acknowledge your feelings as natural and warranted reactions and feel free to practice them. I'm talking about the realm of your own ego, nothing greater. Not even to the point where you affect other people.
But you cannot. You forget that our natural bodies, outside the realm of our psyches, are essentially computers. Emotions are hardwired into us. They are not simply concepts that exist only in our minds, but manifest themselves in hormones and chemicals --physical truths. When we are bothered, we trigger these chemicals and hormones naturally, like a computer that is programmed to unconditionally perform Task A. So yes, the most natural response is the most logical, because it is an objective truth. It can be measured empirically, in precise numbers.Your rationale is flawed though. One, I disagree that the natural response is always the most logical...
But maybe we're just misunderstanding each other. By "natural response", I don't mean a physical reaction--I just mean an emotional reaction as in being angry, or sad. What you choose to do with those emotions is entirely our prerogative and is different from person to person. And I agree, once again, that the most immediate //physical// response is rarely the most appropriate. But if it does not hurt anyone, crying doesn't seem like such a horrible option to me. Or venting to yourself or a close confidant.
Last edited by CypressDahlia; 04-27-2011 at 02:37 AM.
You should watch it again while you're not sea sick.
First of all, other than my first sentence (which I will admit was incorrect and twisting your statement) I said nothing about denying emotions.
My later argument was an attempt to reveal the nature of verbal abuse in an attempt to convince, not force, others to feel less angry and more humored at the idea of verbal abuse, and to subsequently use this understanding to respond to it in a way that benefits them far more than an angry or depressed PHYSICAL response would.
It's my unpopular opinion that this kind of thinking is the key to ending verbal racism. Imagine if no one was ever offended by racist comments. Racists would be forced to take physical action (violence, prejudiced decision-making) against these people in order to harm them now, which is much more explicit and will more rapidly shun the racist from the rest of socitey. But that's my opinion. Also, other forms of racism are a totally different beast.
One of my unpopular opinions: We should get rid of all wheelchair access ramps. It's not that I've got anything against handicapped people, I just hate standing on an angle.
Dude, you should just invent auto-leveling shoes that'll work on ramps and make millions. ...Or not.
my calves... They just can't take it.
No, they've all gotta go
or use the stairs. Most places i've been, its usually stairs with a little area of the ramp for the handicapped.