yesYour legs are cold but your feet aren't?
yesYour legs are cold but your feet aren't?
And that is simply impossible. Hence the best way to go about it is to acknowledge your emotions and COPE with them. And the first step to achieving that is to not be ashamed of having emotions lol.If you make yourself incapable of feeling emotional pain, you cannot be hurt.
Many of our decisions are driven by emotion and they provide plenty of motivation to follow through with them. Maybe my sentence was badly phrased but beyond the syntax it makes perfect sense and is actually often the case.Using emotions to fuel decisions makes no sense.
As humans, we're never //guaranteed// to come up with the best possible solutions under any circumstance. Also, you are assuming that a person who involves emotions in the decision making process is no longer thinking logically. That is a heavy assumption to make. A person can be fully aware of their emotions and still make sound decisions (which is the best method, IMO). But the act of denying your emotions does not make a person any more logical (critical thinking has a standard of its own) nor will it guarantee the best possible solution.You're not guaranteed to come up with the best possible solution if you involve them in the decision-making process beyond the end goals.
In fact, I would argue that denial has a heavier toll on the mind and rationality of a person than emotions. Case in point: most teen suicide cases are the result of bottled up emotions and introversion.
I can accept "this woman rejected me, I will be avenged" as a primarily emotional goal... followed by stuff
You are assuming there is something wrong with our brain chemistry when there isn't. Our brains are still capable of working under the conditions you deem "optimal". It is perfectly possible for the average human to think logically, while still acknowledging their emotions. What's ILLOGICAL is denying the fact that said emotions exist in the pursuit of more logical thinking. In fact, it's just plain wrong because they do exist in the most objective manner (chemically and hormonally) and denying their existence is about as good as denying fact.I would argue that our brain chemistry is mostly unsuited to the conditions of modern living.
In short, COPE with your feelings. Don't DENY them. You achieve the same result with greater control over your psyche, don't have to follow arbitrary standards of social grace and retain a huge chunk of your humanity. Thumbs up !
so we shouldnt be vulcans
Without emotion, we don't have any gratification, and therefore no reason to exist. Don't deny your existence.
Besides, that isn't my point. Let me try another example. Lately, your friends have all been distant from you, avoiding talking to you and acting suspicious. The natural feelings you may have are of frustration, sadness, lonlieness, etc. If you act solely based upon these impulsive emotional reactions, you might yell at your friends, or ignore them yourself, or try to replace them. You will begin to make assumptions and rash decisions before you know anything about the situation. Fast forward a week. You enter your house and SURPRISE!!! they threw you a surprise party. Suddenly all that anger and sadness changes into joy, relief, and a renewed trust in your friends.
Your emotions are different because you now understand more about the situation. It doesn't change the act: that your friends were staying away from you and acting suspicious. That is still the same. What changed is the context of the situation: They were hiding a good surprise for you, not something negative as your initial emotions may have led you to believe.
That is how I view verbal abuse. For the longest time I took those comments personally, and felt anger and sadness as a result of this understanding. Now, I use the three step analysis I posted earlier, and my emotions are laughter, indifference, and a spot of pity for those poor souls who resort to the cheapest weapon in the human arsenaul. I took the time to analyze the situation, and my emotions naturally changed. This is the argument I am making; take the time to CHOOSE to look at the situation, and I believe you will feel different about it emotionally. Moreover, when you use logic to view this situation, you can help yourself make the decision to act in a way that will benefit YOU the most.
anchorman movie was bad seems 2 be an unpopular opinion
Well, if you were truly intelligent you would find out why they were being distant and talk to them about your feelings without harming them. Also, if your friends were smarter, they wouldn't have treated you in an ignoring manner. Your scenario is quite flawed, Fenn, so you'll have to try harder.
Verbal abuse is simply someone who cannot logically assess a situation. They feel they are wronged, and act out in an unpleasant manner upon an uncertainty. There is no point to getting angry or feeling unjust if there can be no good outcome, so you must, as Cyp said earlier, cope with these feelings, and try to deal with things in a logical manner that ensures general welfare.