The thing to understand with females is that they are basically the same composition as a male, the only difference being less accentuation of certain muscles and more padding with adipose tissues/fatty layers. However it sounds more like you are having a construction issue (suggested by the randomosity of the problems) rather than a stylistic issue. If I were to give you my opinion you would need to understand that is more a long term solution rather than a quick fix; results would be determined by the effort you invest. First of all is practice, bust out as many female references (real life and preferably nude if you are studying the anatomy in particular, no point in studying from an already stylized piece) from as many angles as possible and draw them as many of them as possible. There are many different methods out there to conquering the forms, whether that is analytically (skeleton and then adding muscles) or contour (concentrating on the forms the body takes) as well as gestures for creating scaffolding/blueprint for said figure to be built on. If you are not used to dealing with anatomy I would suggest looking up Loomis and Villpu, and then taking a look at working on gestures and building from simple forms into the body. Once you read and begin to understand the forms composing the body, you will swiftly be able to select areas you wish to act on for female figures – however a lot of this is also familiarisation.
However, if you are having a style problem then I would suggest looking through different artists interpretations of the female figure. Take a look at the images and see what the artist has done to show the femininity, maybe construct a list or two of areas you agree with and would want to include. From there you can actively work on it once you know the areas that make a figure come across as female. The masters of this can make a female figure that isn't just a hyper sexualized doll; there are a range of body types.
Lastly, share the images; you cannot be helped if you are reluctant to share your work.
EDIT: That is just my opinion at least, there are many different ways to achieve the same goal. I guess an other thing to note about females in general is that more... curvy arrangement (and if you are astute the antisymmtrical arrangement of the muscles and curves), maybe try showing this more? Again, it's hard to say without an example so I will just dump my thoughts on the matter in hopes that something will be useful to you.