Isn't there a difference between doing things for yourself, and being selfish?
Is doing things for selfish reasons really bad? Is there anyone who doesn't do everything for a selfish reason? i understand that being overly selfish is bad, but is there any reason to do things that isn't selfish?
Well there is no guarantee that a person you are helping/being nice to will not just take advantage of you.
So yeah, there is a point when looking after yourself makes more sense.
The important part is finding the correct balance where you do not just turn into a massive douche... At least in my opinion. :/
What I'm saying is, do people do anything that doesn't benefit themselves in some way?
Drugs? Or are you talking about doing things out of the kindness of their heart? Yknow, a lot of times even when people do that, it benefits them. Makes em feel good.
Guess that could go for both cases actually.
I also find it interesting that even selfless acts from people do have a benefit to the individual, for example taking part in charity; you may get a sense of achievement and knowing that your work is helping the unfortunate, albeit it's a subtle and psychological benefit but in the end a benefit none the less.
Last edited by Demonfyre; 08-04-2012 at 11:23 AM.
Everything you do in life you do for or because of one selfish reason. Pride. If its good or bad is up to you because its subjective in the end. You do everything out of pride right? You help some one not because it was the nice thing to do but because it is your pride to be the one to help. That feeling of satisfaction for ones own good or bad deed is pride. It is impossible to escape so why fight it because in the end you are just fighting it for your pride.
Last edited by Psy; 08-04-2012 at 12:19 PM.
Think about it; if you help one random person in a day, there's a good chance you will not reap any reward from it. But if you help one person every day for a year, that's 365 people. Prodived you have a fairly stationary home, chances are at least a few of your altruistic actions will wind up helping or benefitting you in some way, large or small. And, unlike truly selfish action, which tend to take away from others, there are no negative side effects to a genuinely kind and "selfless" action.
So no, don't feel bad. Doing something nice for someone because it benefits you is fine -- provided the nice thing actually helps them, and isn't a means of taking advantage of that person. That situation becomes far more nuanced and complex.