Well, as simple as that sounds, most real people aren't even that practical. I remember in class this semester, our guest speaker asked, "So, how have any of you given consent in physical relationships?"
Someone said, "Isn't that awkward, like a moment-ruiner? Having to ask for consent?"
I was the only one to raise my hand. I said, "Well, my boyfriend and I just sat down one day and talked about it. We asked each other what each of us are comfortable with, and we told each other where each of our boundaries were in that point of the relationship. Before we talked, though, whatever we did always was asked about beforehand. He asked me if it was okay for him to hug me, even, the first time. But after we talked about consent and what we're comfortable with, if one person wants to go further, they would have to ask if it was okay first."
The guest speaker said, "Wow, that's really good. Has anyone else done that?"
And it was totally silent. Not one single person had, though I was the youngest person in the room. Some people were over fifty years old, even, and it just shocked me that no one had had that conversation. It seemed so natural; it wasn't awkward or anything, and it only took about ten or fifteen minutes. Then it was all good, and we never had to worry about what the other person was comfortable with.
People suck at communication. I'm discovering that more and more as I get older. When something awkward is going on or whatever, a lot of people won't tackle it head-on. I'm not like that, because I think that a quick chat can solve most small probablems.
I think that's exactly what's going on with Mako. He's not good with people. Think back to the first couple episodes. Mako was really sucky with communicating with Bolin about how he was uncomfortable with Korra around. Stuff like that. Mako sucks at talking to people about certain things, and though it could easily be resolved, he doesn't want to do that. And that does t really mean that there's bad writing in that department, because real people are like that too.
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