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Hell_Baron
06-23-2011, 03:39 PM
hey guys,

I'm in a bit of a pickle here...
You see, me and my girlfriend... well let's just say i kinda touched her in the "cookiejar"
Now she may have enjoyed it, but quitte frankly i'm a bit scared of going this far.
Mainly because i promised her parents i wouldn't have sex with her until she was 18... besides that she has the thinking level of a 14-year old and she's 17 right now.
she even mentioned she actually wanted to have sex with me in the near future...
now some of you may say "atta boy" but it feels wrong for some reason and i really don't wan't to break the promise i made to her parents...

Please guys, i really need some advice...

Hayashida
06-23-2011, 04:06 PM
If you want to keep your promise, do it. If you don't want to, then do that. Look into your heart and you will find the answer.

Kodos
06-23-2011, 04:20 PM
All you need to know about women you can learn from Tetris.
Line them up.
Score.
Disappear.

Fenn
06-23-2011, 04:23 PM
Weight your options and priorities. What means more: the trust of her parents, or pleasure? What's the worst case scenario of both choices. Can you afford the risk? Is it worth the reward?



Kodos, you're a piece of work you know that?

Delphinus
06-23-2011, 04:24 PM
Kill her and rape her corpse.

Wait no I'm not Sylux.

Do what Hayashida said.

Kodos
06-23-2011, 04:27 PM
Kodos, you're a piece of work you know that?
http://fi.somethingawful.com/safs/smilies/3/1/feelsgood.001.png

Rio
06-23-2011, 05:00 PM
Well, it seems like you feel bad about it if you do it now so why not wait till she's 18? I mean, it's only a year away (or less maybe) from now right? Anyways, personal experience - if you don't want to do something, don't do it. You'll only feel bad about yourself afterwords and seeing as this is rather intimate, you're better off doing it when you will actually enjoy it.

GunZet
06-23-2011, 06:07 PM
Don't do it.

Slurpee
06-23-2011, 07:00 PM
Don't do it.
Trust me from experience >_>

Delphinus
06-23-2011, 07:12 PM
Kodos, you're a piece of work you know that?

What a piece of work is a man!

Lucy
06-23-2011, 07:19 PM
quitte frankly i'm a bit scared of going this far.Then slow down, tiger.

I advise staying out of her for as long as you can. The longer you hold off, the more meaningful the sex will be. Aside from that, supposing you go ahead and dive in, and then her parents find out, you're going to have a lot of problems with her family. You said she has the thinking level of a fourteen year old? I've been in the same boat; my ex had some mental issues and had a lot of the aspects of a young child. I'd tough it out til her 18th birthday, if I were you, and ask lots of questions in the meantime. Her feelings on the subject probably aren't cemented in her mind yet. Fish for doubt, because when she's in the mood for it, she probably isn't considering how she's going to feel about it later, and how she feels about it when she's not turned on. Other than that, your first time together would make one hell of a birthday present, so that's another reason to hold off. Masturbate vigorously and make yourself spent before you see her, should you need to.

We don't know your girlfriend. You are the only person of all of us who'd be likely to know what's appropriate for you two as a couple. But that said, this stuff is best left until you're 100% comfortable and 100% sure, and you've already said you're scared, so I'd say not yet. Also FYI sex is massively over-rated.

Kodos
06-23-2011, 07:19 PM
Nothing but a miserable pile of secrets! But enough talk! Have at you!

CypressDahlia
06-23-2011, 07:22 PM
Her parents will probably kill you if you did.

LVUER
06-23-2011, 07:28 PM
If you are serious with her, then keep your promise. A good relationship with her parents is also needed. Besides, it's just one more year, right? Be patient, young lad ^_^

Ozzaharwood
06-23-2011, 07:38 PM
You could always try foreplay and see how it goes from there, since it's not technically sex or losing each others virginity (I don't know if either of you are virgins, but you know what I mean) and you aren't technically breaking the promise. But to be safe, and as everyone else has said, you could save it for later and make that moment a special one.

Kodos
06-23-2011, 07:59 PM
We don't know your girlfriend. You are the only person of all of us who'd be likely to know what's appropriate for you two as a couple.
This. This is why I just cracked jokes. She's your girlfriend. You're asking people over the internet for advice involving a person that you should know intimately and which we literally know only what you tell us of her. Don't ask us. Ask yourself. If you're that indecisive, ask a IRL friend who knows the both of you.


Also FYI sex is massively over-rated.
I disagree most strongly. What's overrated is virgin sex. Virgin sex is awful for a lot of reasons. And your first time with anyone is going to be less satisfying since you don't yet fully know each others sexual tastes, triggers, and so on. Sex, like most activities, is something you get better at with practice. Unlike most activities, however, the practice is in and of itself extremely rewarding.

Evil_Cake
06-23-2011, 08:44 PM
follow ur heart

Agro
06-23-2011, 09:35 PM
Why do you ask a question to which you already know the answer? Be confident with yourself. Your gut knows which path leads to a happier future.

jubeh
06-23-2011, 11:37 PM
If she wants to have sex then definitely dont do it. Remember the secret to being a man is to do the opposite of what women want.

Anyway its fine to be nervous about that sort of thing.

If I were you I would go the hilarious route. Like right before you're about to do it, turn on the power ranger theme song. Like just do whatever you can to ruin the mood. I bet you could keep that going for a year.

Afrobit
06-24-2011, 12:22 AM
Don't tap dat if there is a chance you can get in legal trouble for it.

Don't tap dat if you want to uphold her parents' promise.

Don't tap dat if you're not ready.

ClockHand
06-24-2011, 12:58 AM
I don't see the problem; you said you didn't want to break that promise, so don't break it, and If she want sex, then tell her, I think any person would respect it if you tell it properly. She has 17, you just need to wait a year (it can be that hard).


. Sex, like most activities, is something you get better at with practice. Unlike most activities, however, the practice is in and of itself extremely rewarding.

It should be a Olympic event.

Hell_Baron
06-24-2011, 01:46 AM
Thanks guys, that really helped.
I think i'll uphold my promise and wait until she's 18, i have a feeling that will be the best for both of us...
And seen as her father is a veteran who lost both his hands in war and yet still can kick my ass, then i think it would be better for my health too.

Slurpee
06-24-2011, 06:36 AM
that would be an intresting sight to see.
you getting the crap kicked out of you by a guy with no hands.
good luck though xD

Sylux
06-24-2011, 05:05 PM
If she wants to have sex then definitely dont do it. Remember the secret to being a man is to do the opposite of what women want.

Anyway its fine to be nervous about that sort of thing.

If I were you I would go the hilarious route. Like right before you're about to do it, turn on the power ranger theme song. Like just do whatever you can to ruin the mood. I bet you could keep that going for a year.
Or this:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uNPvUmQ56t0&feature=related

Ceta
06-24-2011, 05:16 PM
If I were you I would go the hilarious route. Like right before you're about to do it, turn on the power ranger theme song. Like just do whatever you can to ruin the mood.
It would be even more hilarious if that plan backfired and turning on the Power Rangers theme song really got her in the mood. XD

ClockHand
06-24-2011, 05:22 PM
what?! power ranger theme song doesn't turn on people?!

Another thing for the list "things I did wrong"