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Sunny
06-21-2011, 02:49 AM
So, my question is, what would you do?

All right. I want your perspective. Now, there's this bitch. Let's call her Lassie. She's personally tried to make my life hell, okay? Well, I've been really kind for her to like, nine or ten months now, and she's still going after me with venom. She posts stupid shit about me, tries to get my friends to turn against me, and otherwise is just a real ass. She's shallow and childish, to say the least.

Now, I'm betting she's jealous. Well, anyway, Lassie is on an art site. So am I. She's prettty egotistical. I mean, she has no real self confidence, so she has to brag about everything else to make her feel better. That and she thinks she has me figured out, but she doesn't know a DAMN thing about me.

So, here's me, on this art site, and her, too, okay, and the thing is, yes, she has more watches (yea, like that's really all that important), and she has people shmoozing all over her all the time. I mean, seriously, this girl is about as fake as they come. But the thing is that I don't get it. How is it that people do not see what she really is? Is it simply because she's a tiny bit popular, or more?

The very fact that she does all these things, including posting a large amount of shit about me on the internet for people to laugh at, proves that she really just needs to get a life. I mean, someone who does these kinds of things has some serious psychological problems.

Now, maybe people don't see it because they're not on her bad side, but I really don't see what's important about this person. Why do people treat her like a god? Her art isn't THAT great. I mean, seriously, it's not.

Any ideas, people?

Evil_Cake
06-21-2011, 03:25 AM
dont sweat the small stuff

weez18
06-21-2011, 03:32 AM
if i may...lol my advice is just ignore her lol she can say what she wants to say and theres not really much u can do about it..just relax n laugh at what she says...and basically if your friends believe what shes saying then they r just as ignorant as she is..so no point in having them as a friend ^^..just my two cents lol (oh n just wondering... who is this person ^^)

Outcast
06-21-2011, 03:37 AM
Learn to not give a fuck. Worked for me.

Delphinus
06-21-2011, 10:29 AM
Kill her and steal her profile.

Wait no I'm not Sylux.

Ignoring her wouldn't work. Destroy her utterly, preferably by revealing what she really is to the world. For example, posting examples of her bitchiness to 4chan anonymously with the tagline "check out this bitch" or something. Unless of course all her misbehaviour is in your head. But yeah, strip her of all her friends and social status and then, when she starts crying and looking for an answer, tell her you did it. Nobody will believe her if she tries to tell others what you've done, having seen what a bitch she is.

The exact method you use to assassinate her character is at your discretion.

EDIT: You guys disappoint me. Since when was ignoring an enemy a good way to solve a problem? Don't be so fucking middle-class.

Kodos
06-21-2011, 10:38 AM
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V30tyaXv6EI

ram
06-21-2011, 10:47 AM
yeah just ignore her... and just watch saw5 or any torture video and just imagine it's her that being tortured... that would ease your mind:cat_wahaha:

Rio
06-21-2011, 11:12 AM
You're not in DA by any chance are you? That's like a hot-bed of schmooze right there. Anyways, don't take shit from her is all I say but don't let her get to you either. Bullies tend to go after those who won't fight back. Ignoring may work for something that happened once or twice but if it's constant then put your foot down. Play the game and throw shit back at her. If your friends believe her over you, then they're not really your friends. Friends stand up for you and you need better ones if they don't.

I would keep tabs of everything she says about you. Don't just bookmark the stuff. Save them in files, print them out, or use print screen. If it's full blown harassment, then you've got evidence to back up your claims if the situation ever gets serious.

jubeh
06-21-2011, 11:28 AM
I would love for all my problems to be as silly and pointless as this.

You're jelly because she is more popular than you are and you hate her. The sooner you admit this to yourself the sooner you can laugh about how you ever cared about it.

As for dealing with childish people like that, I live with a family full of that sort of person. I get by by just agreeing with everything they say (even when I obviously don't) and now its gotten to the point where nobody wants to talk to me because I'm not going to argue with them.

ram
07-31-2011, 12:33 AM
well if you want to really destroy this fella here's some advice.

first art can be done in bad ways and good way, so let me give this advice on how to do art in bad way.

first make another account on that site and name it anything.
then, chat to anyone then use print screen.

edit it Photoshop or any other software and make it look like she's talking bad things about everyone who worships her.
for example "i hate x because she's an anoying girl and think she's so yadda yadda, i only talk to her cause she worships me and think my art is good"

just make something out of anything and make her look at the really bad side! if your done just send it to everyone on her good side.
this will probably crush her for real.

then log-in to your account and make it look like your protecting her and go to the innocent side.
this will rise your points to those who worships her.

actually were on the world now that photos and videos can be easily edited, and the people who are capable of doing so are capable of destroying reputation of anyone he wants.

Celestial-Fox
07-31-2011, 02:17 AM
I agree with Jubeh. 

I mean, let's think about it. Pageviews online are disturbingly formulaic. People who poorly draw fanart will most times get more notice, pageviews, and follows than more skilled original artists. I don't mean any barm by saying this, Sunny, but you also work in a niche genre of art. There is such a disgustingly massive stigma against anthropomorphic art that it's difficult to get some people to see past your subject matter and recognize the true talent you have. Because of these factors you can see how a large difference in follower numbers can occur. 

I don't think that ignoring this person is the best route. You've obviously tried that method for some time now with no luck. Don't respond to each item of ridicule individually; it just causes bickering on particulars. Instead you could try to formulate a polite letter/message to this person stating your opinions on the matter. Try to iron out your problems. 

I'm not saying that this will work, but it is worth a try. Unfortunately this is the Internet, and on the Internet there are people. Some people don't always want to mKe up with you on friendly terms. It's easier to hide behind an avatar and an online persona in order to antagonize others online than it is in real life. Trolls do exist, and they get enjoyment out of what they do. 

There once was a person on MT—who I won't disclose—that would troll me a little. It doesn't seem as bad as the situation that you are describing, but it was still clearly an attempt to attack me over art. This person would publicly tell me (and through that, the people that supported me) that I was a fake. They said that for my age, there was no way to have my skill level in art. They would attack me by asking me why I had to lie about how old I am in order to get more attention and praise. I tried explaining to them that I wouldn't lie about silly things like that on the Internet, but I had no luck. Eventually I just had to wait for them to quit the site. 

This person on MT wasn't terribly popular socially or in the Artist Alley, so they had no reason to stay forever. The person you are dealing with seems to have a fairly solid backing and fan following, so I can't imagine that they would leave. So here is my suggestion to you if the letter doesn't work: block them. Most art sites like Deviant Art do, in fact, have blocking systems. Even tiny little Manga Revolution had a block system. In the case of DA, a blocked person cannot contact you or even access your profile. Do it privately. Don't mention it to your watchers. Don't tell this person. Just block them and never bother with this person again. 

ClockHand
07-31-2011, 11:19 AM
Are you asking in how to deal with a internet trolls?

This is simple, just don't pay attention. Is not like the internet doesn't have options to ban certain comments of other peoples or stuffs likes that. And if your friends (I'm assuming are real life friends, not internet friends) go against because of her, then be the better person and just don't pay attention.

Silly problems have easy solutions.

Delphinus
07-31-2011, 04:27 PM
Isn't it a bit cliché to say either:

a) You're jealous, deal with it.
b) Turn the other cheek.

or translated:

a) It's your problem, not hers.
b) Be complacent.

You guys clearly love being abused by other people...

CypressDahlia
07-31-2011, 06:54 PM
There's no point in worrying about this. Some people are good at keeping up a front before the masses. Until she cracks or people come to the realization that she's a total bitch themselves, there's really nothing you can do. If you try to out her on it, chances are you'll end up incriminating yourself as a jealous or spiteful person.

In other words: you are in the best position right now, as you have yet to get your hands dirty.

Fenn
08-01-2011, 06:12 PM
Celestial-Fox (aka Seefy as I recently learned...) has a good idea about blocking. It's a one-step process that automatically cuts off communication between you.

If that doesn't work, try to peacefully resolve it like someone else posted earlier.

If that still doesn't work, then...I can't believe I'm agreeing with him, but Delphinus' tactics are your best alternative. You don't have to go so far as to make her cry unless you find it necessary, but if you expose her for the cruel person she is.

If the assault method isn't your style, try making a game out of it. Make it look as thouhg you aren't just ignoring her, but you're HAVING FUN. Posts like "oh _____ , you're so cute." or "are you trying to flirt with me?" and such. Mess her all up. This works for me often, especially as I'm against the Delphinus Bloodthirsty Method.

Whatever you do, DO NOT:
1. Focus on her art. Morals and art skill are completely separate. If you attack her art you're just going to look desperate.
2. Worry about her "followers." Block them 1 by 1 if they cause you trouble and don't worry about convincing them; their allegiences are already sold.

Delphinus
08-01-2011, 06:32 PM
If you have proof of her wrongdoings, get it subtly published through an anonymous website that has no relation to the one the dispute is taking place on.

If not, make proof and publish it.

Fenn
08-01-2011, 07:52 PM
If you have proof of her wrongdoings, get it subtly published through an anonymous website that has no relation to the one the dispute is taking place on.

If not, make proof and publish it.

If you have no proof of internet abuse chances are it isn't happening. She would have had to delete ever rud ecomment che's made, and you would have had to delet every message she's sent.

If you don't have proof, wait for some and then collect it. If none comes then your problem is solved already anyway.